But I love her/him

"But I love him/her."
I am tired of shows that have people who put up with other's who beat them, mistreat them and cheat on them and when asked why they stay their only comment is, "I love them."
Well, not good enough. 
What does that mean? 
If you don't have any explanation behind it, that means we could replace the proper noun with a regular noun. "I love chocolate. I love my country. I love the rainbow. I love lions."
If the person you, "love" isn't loving, and you can't give examples of how they are then the word is meaningless. You have your reasons for disliking them and wanting the behavior to stop, and you claim you love them, so you should be able to give examples of why you love them.
"They are kind, smart, they take out the garbage, they make me laugh, they fit my needs." (Any of those work, they don't have to be deep and no, there isn't any big reason to love someone, you can just love them. Unless you I tell you otherwise. Good? Good.)
I am only referring to asking yourself these questions when you are being asked why are you staying with someone who is wrong for you.

If you are constantly in pain and misery, you need more than just, "I love them" to think about.

Let me flip this on it's head, are you loving to them?
I know, they beat you and hit you and are mean, and don't deserve your kindness, but you said you love them, well are you loving to them?
Do you treat them well, do nice things for them? Think of ways to make their life easier?
If they aren't loving, and you aren't loving, it's not love.
You feel sorry for yourself and want others too as well.
You hurt because they hurt you, but does it make you feel bad that they are being bad to you? I mean do you feel bad for them being bad to you?

Staying with someone who treats you bad because you, "love them" and have no action and verbs behind it is not love, it's complacency. You would like it if they would stop their actions, but you won't change yours or get out of the situation if they don't. You'll just sit there and not move till things turn around. They may leave you, hey they're jerks of course they'll leave you when you bore them, or they found someone else to dump on.
Or they'll stay and your life won't get any better, if your fine with that, great. I'm sorry for you but if you want that, and no kids are involved and you aren't hurting anyone but yourselves, than I'll shut my mouth and you can call me Charlie.
However, don't go on Dr. Phil, don't cry to your friends about it and stop calling and involving me in it because I'm tired of it.
My only advice to those who'll stay, (and I know it's not that easy and I know you have your reasons) is, "I'm sorry. I can't help you. But I care. Good luck."
I am not implying that it is this simple and as always, I didn't mean you, I meant those other people. I certainly didn't mean you. Your so vain.